It took me a lot to figure out where my contribution to the concept of reconciliation started. Although, now when I think of everything I did in my life, people that i met and what I’ve seen I can say that it started a long time ago, when I first went to Kosovo, I was for years old and I was playing football with another Albanian boy.
After that, I must admit in my life resulting void … because I did not think much of the problems in the region, and in general about the problems faced by people who come from countries with which my country used to be on good terms. Perhaps because I was often surrounded by people not by their national origin from Serbia. My house has always been a place of welcome for Croats, and Bosnians, and people from Kosovo, so I probably thought that if I made good and friendly relationship with them, then it will be so with other people. Then I grow up, I realized some things, saw what people think about each other. When I finally realized what the war did to people during the nineties in neighboring countries, and here, I was scared, but then I realized something that I had always talked about-if I can change myself, others can change too . If I can change people here in Serbia, everyone can. However, in order to respect others countries you need to meet them and know them.
For centuries we all live next to each other, and we do not know enough about each other, but we say that we know each other best. Too haughty and proud, and so little understandable and compassionate. We managed to establish that the prejudice in our mentality deposited as silt around pure pearls, and we do not try enough to repair it. And what we did? We were able to change the history that everyone has their own, and that we are right but no one is, that everyone is innocent and nobody is guilty. All this is hard to change, at least so we’re told by politicians, historians, people who are in the political and economic elite that obviously fits this situation in our region. Hard as it may seem, I believe that this may change. It will not happen today, it will not happen tomorrow, but it will happen at the moment when we all clearly agreed that we will try every effort to change and solve our problems. What life has taught me, it’s that no problem is not solvable.
The truth is not that difficult, as well as all necessary in life you need the will, the determination to solve some things. The will from all sides not just one. It is true that we aspire to help the victims’ families to gain some peace is here in Balkan, but no one wants to talk about truth. This truth we need to proceed. Somewhere in the process of reconciliation we stopped by a longer period of time, under constant pressure from the EU and the world that force to resolve things quickly, and that must be dealt with slowlynes. The one of biggest problem of all is that it does not allow young people to a great extent to help the entire process of reconciliation. But that change, we begin to get a chance to do so. At the seminar “ Youth reconciliation ambassadors ” young people finally got a chance to have their say, to get to know each other and to try to do something about the problems of our region. I was lucky enough to meet people who just care about that, as I do. While we know that we shall not solve this right now, we are confident that one day we will.
We are all responsible for the our own actions , for the things that we say, and I hope as a political science student that one day I get a chance to do everything in my power to bring my country and the whole region a bit closer to reconciliation, and that my actions and my words have meaning. I am aware that this can not happen overnight, but I can also certainly assure you that I will try that my future and future of my country, future of my neighbors make better one day. Some Might say that it is too ambitious, maybe a little utopian, I believe that this is possible. We need to change only one opinion of a man, just someone to explain what needs to be done in case on reconciliation, and that someone realizes this. Then I’ll know that I and others can do it again with a lot more people. There are so many problems that we as young ambassadors of reconciliation need to deal with. For me one of the most important things is the very awareness of the region and the people who are suffering because of the conflict during the 90’s. Here in Serbia, people have started to think for themselves and to have their opinions about something, they all go to a groups and to collective thought that they had lost what they once thought about someone or something. The problem is that the attitude of other peoples and governments of the region is created by the media which is easily controlled by one with power, by politicians who will told you everything for the votes. And people really listens without thinking and thought, and it’s like this in every county in region.
History books for schools are bad written because they are subjective will of the author and his supporters and in most cases they are written by will on man in power in that country. All of us in our countries have their own books, their own history, which says that we are right, and children from an early age learn that, they are learning to have prejudices, some goes into even more extreme, and you can easily start to hate someone that you have never met. If we were able to change it would be easier. Let’s look at a good example of the modern world, as France and Germany were at war for decades, and now learning from the same book, the children respect each other, and because the adults are learning about the same things, and of course that their citizens have not forgotten the suffering of their people, but they went ahead and looked at the future. Every time I think about reconciliation remind myself about this countries and I know that possible, this Balkans “Myth”named reconciliation.
Dubrovka Stanojević, historian from Serbia, is one of the few who dared to change the history books and, together with colleagues from the region wrote something like a common history, something that we all can look objectively without bias, and for me it is like a real inspiration to see that there are people who struggle for reconciliation through truth.
The problem in the region is not come from people, I firmly believe in it, but from the system that guides our government. Until we eradicate controlled media and the general historian by my opinion it is difficult to continue. To solve these problems is not easy when you consider that some of the difficult psychological force or show people that there is another side that is not the same as theirs. For it is necessary to involve young people more because they are much more likely to open their heads and to look at the situation from the other side, to see that the other way from how they were taught in schools, This is something I learned at various seminars where I was, it was just easier to talk with young people about difficult issues such as reconciliation in the region, because we are the ones who will one day might lead this country and we are the future. Or maybe not the best solution but it is certainly something that would help a lot. Another major problem is the lack of compassion for others, it is of course something that is in today’s world of globalization, the lack of all of the people, some less, some more, but it is present and disruptive process of reconciliation.
Namely, to go back to the fact that we have to understand the neighboring nations, and we have to sympathize with them, a lot of people lost their loved ones during the war in the former Yugoslavia. And in order to solve a problem of this sort simply need to be aware that not just we who are suffering, we need to recognize ourselves and others.
In my opinion, of course, the whole process of reconciliation is something that can be solved from the perspective of ordinary citizens and young people who will one day know to use their knowledge and try to do everything to improve the situation for reconciliation in the region. The truth is that it is up to us as ambassadors of reconciliation, but to achieve what any normal person desirous of peace we need to solve the problems that hinder the reconciliation process. All the problems that I mentioned that in my opinion the primary must be resolved. The road to where I want to go, and this is the reconciliation, and the solutions that reconciliation required are clearly defined and highly visible only we should have the courage and start their resolution. My contribution to the reconciliation will never end and even now is in motion, through the motto of Mahatma Gandhi“Be the change you wish to see in the world“.